Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Wedding Wednesday: The registry

When I was younger, I had no qualms asking people to buy me things. You can ask my parents. I would take the JC Penney catalog and dog ear the pages containing items I wanted. I'd even circle the exact items on the page -- just in case they couldn't figure out what I was requesting.

Over the years, I've gotten a little more shy about this. There are always plenty of things I want, but I feel awkward putting them on a legitimate wishlist.

As you can imagine, creating our wedding registry has been an interesting exercise for me. On one hand, I have lived on my own for a long time. I have just about everything I need for my kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, etc.

On the other hand, it just feels weird giving people a list of things to buy us. It feels presumptuous and just makes me uncomfortable.

But ... I've been told people like to buy gifts and having a registry helps them figure out what to buy, so we created one anyway.

The biggest item is probably the honeymoon fund. For a long time, Sean and I talked about going to Cooperstown in New York for Hall of Fame weekend. But as I looked at the costs involved, I knew it would be too much. So then we thought Denver or Boston. Both contain ballparks we've never been to and would provide other activities. But at present, we aren't sure we'll even have a honeymoon. At least not right away. We might have to delay it a year or so. We just don't have the funds for it right now. I'm hoping some of our guests will gift us a little cash so we can have some kind of getaway.

Other things we've added to the registry:
- an Instant Pot (I keep reading/hearing great things)
- a crockpot for casseroles
- some nice plain glasses (our pint glass collection works, but we could use another option)
- a toaster that can also poach an egg and cook a breakfast meat (whaaaaat?)
- a handheld vacuum (for the stairs in our house)
- a Dutch oven (I'm intimidated about using one, but I'll give it a try)
- towels (you can't have too many of these)
- sheets (see above)

I'm equally worried about not having enough items on the list and having too many. I want to make it easy for people who want to buy us gifts, but I don't want to look greedy!!

If you're married, what were some of your favorite wedding gifts?
If you're not married, what's your favorite thing to give people as a wedding gift?


  1. I tried to be really conscious of having stuff at all different price points but was also i afraid to put a few higher priced things on there. At the end of the day, all of us is a wish list. You wish for things and people buy what they wish or don’t. Boom.

    When we got married we put stuff on the list to replace or upgrade a lot of what we had. Over seven years later we’re still using the plates, serving pieces, silverware. The towels, sheets, bowls and glasses have all been replaced. We never used the salad serving set or espresso machine.

  2. So I’ve never been married before but I was a bridal consultant at Bed Bath and Beyond when I was in college and we always told our brides to register for more item than they think need. Registering for a toaster? Register for 3, all in different price points so people in every budget have options to choose from. Do that with everything and then when all the showers are over you can choose what you want and take the other gifts back.

  3. Definitely set up a registry, or two! Put everything you want on it, from dishes, towels and other household items to practical things like a clock and fireproof safe (my favorite gift!). Sometimes people (co-workers, cousins) will go in on a big ticket item, so don't shy away from those. When all is said and done you can return what may seem frivolous to you for those items that are more important to have at the moment. There are also honeymoon registries! My cousin went on a backpacking trip through Scotland and set up one so we could buy gear, hotel credit, and give monetary gifts for them.

    Send me the link to that toaster!

  4. We had been living together for 4 years before we got married. We took the opportunity to upgrade some of our appliances and things to better versions and registered for things we wanted to have that we didn’t necessarily want to spend our own money. We also got about $400+ in gift cards for where we were registered and about $1000 cash.
    As wedding attendees, we usually give cash. If I’m invited to the bridal shower, I do a gift there. We find that it’s a lot less of a hassle to remember to bring a card with cash to the reception than to remember a big gift!


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