Friday, August 28, 2015

What are you training for?

A year ago, I was in the early stages of training for my half-marathon.  I know this thanks to the "On This Day" feature on Facebook.  Less than ten months ago, I was running 17 miles a week.  These days, I'm lucky to get six in.  What has happened?
The answer -- I'm not training for anything.  
My next race is a few weeks away and it's a 5K.  Those have become pretty easy for me, so I don't really have to train as long as I run fairly regularly. Although, I don't really feel like I'm even doing that.

I really want to get back into running.  But it's hard to get motivated to do the miles when I don't have anything to work towards.  Even my monthly mileage goal doesn't seem to be enough.

Any suggestions?


August Instagram Fitness Challenge Update
Each Sunday, I post a funny pic related to an exercise on Instagram. For every "like," I do one rep of that exercise for the week.  (Be sure to follow me and motivate me!)

This week's funny:

I'm also aiming to run 35 miles this month.

Mileage: 16
I'm not even going to get close.


Last week's workouts
Friday: Danced like crazy at the Andy Grammer show + 18 mountain climbers
Saturday:  1 mile on the treadmill + Personal training session + 18 mountain climbers
Sunday: 18 mountain climbers
Monday: 18 mountain climbers
Tuesday: Fit Fusion + 18 mountain climbers
Wednesday: Yoga at home + 18 mountain climbers
Thursday: 18 mountain climbers

This week has been rough thanks to this nasty cold/allergies thing that is still hanging around.

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Who should do the asking?

About a month ago, I conducted an informal poll on Twitter, Facebook, and even here on the blog.  I asked one question about dating -- should girls ask guys out?  Of course, I asked people to explain their answer.  I got some very interesting responses, and it sparked a pretty hot discussion over on Facebook.

Overwhelmingly, the consensus was yes, girls should feel free to ask guys out.  Here were some of the supporting statements:

Troy -- Yes because it's not the 19th century. Some of us are afraid of rejection too but that doesn't mean they aren't good men.
Joe -- Sure why not? Can't think of a reason not to other than outdated social norms that were misogynistic.

Sarah -- Hell yes. The way I see it, I wouldn't want to date a guy who was uncomfortable with me asking him out. That said, it's nice to be asked out, too.

Rena -- I think it's totally fine. I never would bc I'm a chicken, but I think it's cool when girls do.

Christina -- Of course! :) I probably asked out half the guys I dated and that was back in the '90s!

Nicole -- Yes. Always. Be in control of what you want!

Danielle -- Um yes. We vote, we run for office, we get degrees, we win awards, but God forbid we see if someone wants to go halfsies on some spindip. If I like a dude and I'm not sure if he likes me, I'll ask. I'm not an antique vase sitting on a shelf hoping that someone picks me over the other vases. I'm a woman with a voice and the ability to make decisions and ask another human if they want to split some gosh dang food with me (sidebar, I am HUNGRY). Any explanation over that is overthinking it.

Jamie -- I just asked a male coworker. He said, "guys are dumb, you shouldn't have to ask them out, but most of us are oblivious. If you're interested, go for it. It's flattering for us to have a woman approach, just as it's flattering for women when guys approach."

Paul -- Personally I find it flattering and refreshing when a girl asks me out. Guys are not dumb and guys are not oblivious. Dumb guys are dumb and oblivious guys are oblivious, but let's not generalize.

Mickell -- Hell yes! Why not?! If you want something or someone, get after it!!!! Also, as for the chase aspect. Girls like that just as much as guys. It's fun....I used to love the chase. Then when I got my guy, it was even better! This time he pursued me, which is also awesome.

Alicen -- They should! But, it may turn some men off who are used to the classic submissive woman. However, GOOD. 

Meghen -- Hell yes! I'm pretty sure All of my previous relationships (like all the way back to 5th grade, lol) were a result of ME asking THEM out. I should also add that I'm a huge fan of the shy/nerdy type. 

Bridget -- Do you, if you want to. Hell yes. If he doesn't like it then who cares you don't need that negativity in your life.

Cindy --  I think it's perfectly acceptable. If a guy thinks it's too forward, you may not want to waste your time anyway.

Kelly -- I think it's totally fine for a girl to ask a guy out. I have done it a few times and had more luck than with the random creeps that ask me out on online dating sights. At least I know I'm interested if I ask him. That said, it takes a woman with a healthy self esteem in case rejection...but the same thing can be said for men, I suppose.

Some even shared their personal stories:

Megan -- I wish it happened more often. I definitely hit on my now husband, and he totally shut me down because he didn't realize what I was doing. It wasn't until almost a year later that he finally made the move, and I called him out for it.

Kristin -- I didn't exactly ask my husband out, but I kind of forced him to ask me out through persistency. It worked out okay.

Rich -- I was so painfully shy in my teen years, I would never have had a date if not for girls asking me.  

Susie -- I hit on my husband 14 years ago at a bar. I was 31 and he was 25. I was a cougar before cougars were a thing! 

One person wasn't opposed to it though she preferred not to be in the driver's seat:

Terri -- I've asked guys out before. Yet, I am typically "old fashioned" and I prefer if the guys makes the first move.

There was really only one person who was adamant that girls should not ask guys out:

Lacy -- No. Why? Men have to have the chase. And I know exactly how much BS that sounds like, because I didn't believe it for about 7 years in my early- mid 20's and asked guys out left and right. The result? I was labeled "aggressive," and even worse, "crazy" for pursuing someone I was interested in. These days, I don't ask guys out AT ALL. To be fair, I have about the exact same track record as I did when I was asking out anything with a penis. But now, at least my dignity is (sort of) intact. It might be a cliche, but it really is true-- if he's interested, he'll ask. If he's too scared or if he EXPECTS you to make a move, that is not someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway.

I'm not sure I agree with Lacy's reasoning, but I'm not going to discount her opinion just because I disagree or because it was the lone dissenting voice. If her experience with doing the asking has been overwhelmingly negative (and it sounds like it has), I can completely understand why she would be opposed to it. 

Ultimately, I think girls asking guys out is perfectly fine.  It takes the wondering out of the equation if you're interested. There are many times in my past I wish I'd done this so I would have known not to waste so much of my time.  Besides, any guy who is bothered by me making the first move is not someone I would want to be with.  

This informal poll was mostly hypothetical although I do plan to put the results into practice.  Or maybe I have already. *smile*  I mean ... why wait?  If I like someone, why should I wait for him to come to me?

What are your thoughts on the subject?


Wednesday, August 26, 2015

What I'm Loving Wednesday 8/26

What I'm Loving Wednesday

I'm loving ...

... my dance fitness class. It truly is the best hour of my week ... when I can get there. The class is held three times a week -- Monday through Wednesday, but I can only get there occasionally on Tuesdays. It completely makes my week when I get to shake it for an hour.

... my new fitness tank.  A little nerdy and a little adorable.  Wearing cute clothes helps make the workouts more fun.

... the new Andy Grammer single, "Good to Be Alive."  I'm so so so in love with it.  I cannot stop listening to it.  And chair dancing.
From last Friday's Andy Grammer show. SO GOOD!

... that I bought a ticket to see Rachel Platten in October. I was just browsing a concert calendar, expecting not to find any artists I wanted to see.  But as soon as I saw her name -- shut up and take my money.

... that I'm enjoying a Twitter crush for the first time in ages.  The last time I had one of those, it didn't end so well.  So I'm being cautious with this one ... but not denying myself either.
This is so me.

... that I'm in a fantasy football league with my brewery co-workers.  I've been wanting to play fantasy football for a few years now but couldn't find my way into a league.  I'm sure my team will be terrible, but I'm looking forward to it.  Any suggestions for a great team name?

What are you loving lately?

Tuesday, August 25, 2015


I took last week off from blogging.  It had to happen, honestly.  I needed a break.  My life has been crazy lately, and my mind has been in some weird places.  I feel like I'm in the in-between.  Of what?  I have no idea.  I feel like I'm in the middle of some huge transition of which I'm not fully aware.  I guess time will probably reveal it all.

In the meantime, let's catch up a bit.

Here are some photos of my recent adventures:

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And here are a few things on my mind and in my life lately:

Currently reading ... "The Other Side of Later" by D.K. Hamilton.  I'm only a few chapters in, but so far I'm loving it.  I actually discovered the author and book via Twitter.  I enjoy supporting other indie authors.

Currently drinking ... Cold Care Tea.  At least once a day.  Last week, I left my windows open overnight when the pollen count was over 10.  My allergies got upset and then morphed into a full-blown cold. I was miserable for most of the weekend.

Currently wishing for ... a day of no obligations.  I might need to schedule one soon.  It's the only way it'll happen.

Currently despising ... that I haven't had time to put in some solid work on any of my writing projects.  I miss them.

Currently crushing on ... Miles Teller. At least in terms of celebrities.  In real life? I got nothing. 

Currently watching on TV ...  "Bachelor in Paradise." It's so bad, but it's so good.

Currently looking forward to ... going to a baseball game with my co-workers this afternoon.  We get to clock out at 11 (but still get paid for the rest of the day, of course), have lunch at the ballpark, and watch some baseball.

What's up with you?

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