Tuesday, November 5, 2013

That time I bought a drink for a guy

This is the story of the day I made a bold move with a guy and didn't know what to do next.  There are actually probably a lot of these stories.  I am clueless when it comes to the opposite sex -- letting them know I'm interested (without freaking them out) and knowing when they're interested.  I don't know if I'll ever figure it out.

Anyway, here's the story of my latest bold and awkward adventure.

Last Saturday, I was at a local bar with three good friends to watch the Iowa State game.  It's an official ISU gameday place, so if I ever want to meet a Cyclone guy, that's probably the place to do it.  And there were some good looking ones there on Saturday.  At least in my opinion.  My friends didn't seem to agree.  But ... different tastes, right? 

Anyhow, I definitely checked a lot of them out, and there was one that kept getting my attention.  I don't really know what it was about him.  I just thought he was attractive and seemed kind of quiet (the type I like for some reason).

I decided it was time to check off one of my 2013 goals -- buy a drink for a cute guy.

I went to track down our waitress and told her I wanted to buy a drink for the guy in the yellow ISU polo.

She said, "Well, he just ordered a pitcher."
I said, "That's fine, put it on my tab."
She said, "Do you want me to tell him?"
I said, "Sure, why not?"

I went back to my friends and told them about what I'd just done.  They all gave me high fives.  Meanwhile my heart was pounding as the waitress returned and brought the drinks to the table next to us.  I saw her telling the guy I'd bought his order, and he looked at me and just gave a little wave.  I waved back.

But I didn't know what to do after that.

It was a scary few moments for me and the thrill of my bold move didn't last very long before it faded into disappointment. 

The game went on and I tried to think about what I was supposed to do.  According to my friends, I was supposed to go talk to him.  But he was with like seven other people, and that's intimidating.  In his defense, I was sitting in the middle of my three friends, so I could see how that could be intimidating as well.

Apparently, he tried to get my attention when I got up to go to the restroom a little while later.  But it was so loud in there, I don't think I would have heard it.  He and his friends were gone by the time I came back out.

So, there was no conversation.  I don't know his name or anything about him. 

Now I'm left to wonder what he took away from the gesture. Was he flattered?  Weirded out? Will he share the story with friends like I am?  I hope I at least made his day.

I don't know if I'll be able to conjure up that kind of courage again, but if I do, I definitely want a different outcome.

A guy friend of mine offered this advice (although it was a little late, I think he makes good points):
Micah! Go and talk to him! Two rules:
1. Don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself
2. Start the conversation about anything that is not about yourself or him. Find something about your surroundings that is noteworthy and ask if he noticed it as wel
l. Keep the conversation going with anything else that is not about you or him for at least a few minutes. Let him talk, but don't be afraid to ramble. I really, really hope you get around to talking to him.

Of course, I'm still single, so take that with a grain of salt if you so desire.

What do you think? 
Do you have anything to add to the advice above?


  1. you are def way gutsier than me! I would have expected the guy to come and talk to you, at least to thank you for buying him a drink. I once had a guy buy me a drink and I was absolutely flattered. I ended up walking over to thank him for the drink, we talked, and I left and that was that.

  2. Hey, you've got more courage than me!! That's awesome you did that, and I bet it made his day!!

  3. I agree with the "don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself". I know it's hard (been there, friend), but you will most likely never see these guys again if it doesn't work out. And guys like that show of confidence, I suppose.

  4. I'm so happy you did this and I'm positive you made his day. Who doesn't want free beer? He should have given you more than a wave though. I think your friend gave you great advice!


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