Tuesday, May 3, 2016

I'm going to date myself

My relationship with dating has been well-chronicled in this space. I have tried online dating, speed dating, and (obviously) the old school method of just being in places where I can meet people. I've gone on a lot of first dates (and a decent number of second, third, fourth, and fifth dates), but I'm still very single, so obviously none of it panned out.

My feelings about dating: IT SUCKS.

I believe a lot of my failure has to do with my relationship with myself. I have not always loved myself like I should. And there have been some spans of time when I didn't even like myself. I've gotten better about self-affection in recent years, but I know I still have work to do. Because if I don't like/love me, how can I expect someone else to?

Clearly, I also just haven't figured out how to meet the right men. As mentioned, I've dated quite a bit. And I constantly meet men through my work and hobbies. I've fielded some flirting and a few date invitations through these venues, but they either weren't appealing or they just didn't work out.

It's time to change my game.

Enter the Date Yourself Challenge.

I saw this advertised on Facebook, and I was intrigued enough to sign up. It's free, and it's a 10-day commitment. I like free. And I can do anything for 10 days.  I'm in.

For some reason, I feel the need to clarify that I am happy as a single. I enjoy the life I'm living, and if it's a solo venture, that's cool. There are a lot of perks. However, I'm also open to meeting someone special. I think there are perks in that world too.

I'm already looking forward to this challenge. I'm hoping it will help me learn more about myself and what more I can be doing to meet the right men. And maybe even allow them to meet me. I may not be perfect, but I think I have a lot of positive attributes that someone somewhere should find attractive.

If this project helps me find him, great. If not, at least it'll give me something to blog about.

Any other single ladies want to join me in this challenge? It starts on May 13.


  1. One of life's ironies is that we inevitably meet that person ONCE we stop looking...

  2. I'm curious about this premise. In the last few years post college I've really tried to focus on me (which has led to awesome things like learning to love doing things by myself) but I do wonder what types of challenges exist in this. I may try it. Like you said, it's 10 days at most.

  3. Interesting...I might have to check this out...

  4. Hey Micah! I'm so excited to have you in the challenge, and thank you so much for sharing it with your readers! It's going to be so much fun, and this Friday, I'm actually releasing a podcast episode where one of my challenge alums talks about how dating herself changed the way she dated + her life. She was definitely one of the doubters, but was blown away by the end of the challenge of what it did for her.



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